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Kitsune, Maskless Crusader.'s avatar

Great advice. I forgot to mention when you asked the following. If you would be upset by anyone, especially a foreigner who does not speak your language, doing something outside your home, don’t do it when traveling.

On tats, I didn’t even think of this. My experience is that only those who are long stayers generally venture to a public bath. I did not while in the navy here. My first time was after a kendo practice while I was studying in Niigata after leaving the canoe club.

A few years ago my kid’s swimming school hosted a parent and child swim day. I took the oldest and as we were leaving the changing area a staff member came running up to tell me I had to leave. Either my rash guard sleeve slipped up a bit uncovering my navy tat or someone saw it as I was changing. Meaning either a father of one of my kid’s swim mates or any parent of same saw the bottom if the sleeve rode up a bit. Not a good day.

Given the seeming over sensitivity concerning foreign visitors, I’m betting on stronger enforcement of no tat rules. My wife found an elastic bandage that affixes to itself with Velcro. I just wrap it around my bicep to hide my tat and life has been much better since. Do NOT use the adhesive tat hiding patches. They are hard to remove with bits hanging on for days afterwards.

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We are planning to spend 6 months in Japan next year. Having gone there on business twice, I appreciate these reminders.

A question. How do the Japanese feel about foreigners asking for directions? To ask or not to ask? I found addresses confusing, if extant at all, but was embarrassed that nearly every person I would ask would take me blocks out of their way to show me the way to where we were going. I stopped asking for directions.

My only “mistake” in an onsen was to forget to put on my slippers in the changing room. I was walking—naked and barefoot—as I would in an American gym and was quickly scolded by an older Japanese woman! Sumimasen goes a long way when you make an error. I did feel a little like an object of attention as I was the only larger Caucasian in the onsen at the time. I could feel the stares—subtle, but still stares. I’ve never felt more like a fat American!

I am also wondering if there are regional protocols of which to be aware. We’ll be in Tokyo, Kobe and Sapporo for a month each with getaways to smaller towns in each region.

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